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Dating with Lorraine Adams
Have you fallen into the trap of endless rounds of blind dates that only end up with disappointments and your ego being flattened?
Or do you wish you had the luxury of a date every once in a while?
Either way if you apply structure to your dating it can have a far more positive effect.
Multi-dating is a good thing; it pushes us to explore the opposite sexmore, instead of settling for becoming all consuming with people who often turn out to be totally unsuitable.
We think we are into someone, but more often than not it is because we are in love with the idea of being in love and just want to dive all too quickly into the cosy couple familiar feeling.
If you put some kind of structure to your multi- dating it can work for you without you having to suffer the dreadful 'Dating Fatigue'.
My suggestion is to have a proactive month where you plan ahead and give yourself the goal of going out on at least four dates during the month - (coffee dates are best- there are less expectations) and then give yourself a month off as a break.
It’s important that when accepting or instigating a date that you get out of your comfort zone - add dates with people who you wouldn't specifically deem as a potential partner.
This allows you to brush up on your communication and flirting skills, without feeling too nervous and of course your 'goose bump' dates will become less daunting.
Multi-dating also keeps you posed as a challenge - which is the ultimate appeal.
Being unavailable, busy and less all consuming portray you as a confident attractive person.
Being too available and willing is often a formula for disaster.
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